. I believe we all know or have an expat friend or family member or even colleagues.but you know the things you say to them of course mostly well-meant, are not so appealing or you shouldn’t be saying or asking them.
Being an expat myself, I have heard so many things that sometimes I wish I would tell people to not say them , but out of respect I’m writing them here.this is clever, I know. So, without any further Ado. Here are they. so next time you are going to have a chat with that expat you know what not to say.
Complementing on how quickly they learn the local language.
This is supposed to be a nice complement and the expats appreciate that but, although this is really well-meant, with time it comes out like you are questioning that person’s language learning capability. Like” I didn’t think you would get it “kind of doubting.
Asking about how they find the local food
Seriously , do you all just eat the local food everyday? But just because I live here, it doesn’t necessarily mean that I have to eat the local food every time. i can go to the supermarket and cook just what i wanna eat without it being from here.
Assuming they are used to a certain weather
Okay , there’s a big difference between Africa and Europe. No questions about that, but summer here can get really hot and for some reasons people tend to assume that the expats coming from Sunny/ warm countries and towns are used to the heat or to that current weather. We are not and we’ll be happy if you stop assuming already.
Asking if they miss their families back home
This is like the most natural thing or feeling. some people left their home countries by choice some because of work reasons still, it doesn’t stop them to Long for their families and friends back home. But for some reason people always want to know if the expats miss their families. Yes we do! And it would be so nice if you don’t remind us all the time.
Telling them how beautiful their home country is.
We heard you, you have been there a couple of times, or just once ten years ago and we appreciate that and all but, we know how beautiful our home countries are. We just don’t want to be reminded every time. We are actually trying to settle in,( for the new expats ) in our new home country. you might also like http://www.ablissfullmess.com/top-5-ways-for-nailing-your-first-year-as-an-expat/
So, there you have it friends. What are some of the things you wish people would stop saying as an expat? Leave your comment below.